Hi CMC I was just struck by you saying you'd been together 17 years, same as me and my H before we separated last year, and how living with his anger and hostility was a big part of my life for a long time until it got the better of him and he moved out. The thing that I can't decide at the moment is what I want, and I wondered if it was the same for you. I've just done a massive U-turn and gone from miserable angry hostile cow to friendly ex who wants the best we can achieve for the children, but it makes me incredibly anxious to meet up with him, and whenever I see his angry depressed side I think, do I really want to deal with all this sh*t again? Mind you if there was even the glimmer of a twinkle in his eye for me I'd be there like a shot, but I wondered if you'd taken the idea of goal planning seriously, and set even some short term goals, and how you'd know when you'd achieved them. How can you begin to deal with the crap if you don't know what you are trying to achieve?
