I really do think that she's getting more comfortable with me because she is finally starting to feel like the pressure is off and that my changes are not a short term act. I like the idea of at least being friends, and you're right that it always keeps the door open -- just can't sit and stare at it, waiting for W to step through.
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I really think based on that last interaction that it's just a matter of time before you waw starts regreting her choices. Especially, since this OM's luster is going to start wearing off.
Oh, believe me -- BF's (not an OM -- started dating after the was filed by me) luster is gone and has been for a little while. W is really just stuck living with him due to financial aspects, and I know that she's not willing to come back to me even if she's done with him. At this point BF is the lesser of the two evils. Sad, but true.
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It will be interesting over the next couple months what u decide to do if she starts wanting to work on things. It really looks like a possibility the way you have described her acting.
I think it's easy to see more positives in other people's sitches, and I honestly don't see the positives I recently mentioned as being real indictative of W considering reconciliation. I do, however, think it shows that she is making a concerted effort in having better relations with me because I've recently shown that there is no danger in her doing so. She commented a few months ago that she wasn't nicer or more friendly to me during the separation because she didn't want to give me any false hope. I think she now sees that I have accepted things and am detached enough that she can be nice/friendly without me clinging to it. Because I do believe this is the case, I will honor that and continue to appreciate her efforts, but not read into them and allow them to drive my hope. I will monitor them and take stock, but I will not put more into them than is logical.
I know that my description lend to more hope than actually exists, but I do appreciate your support and positive thoughts/feelings. And yes, it will be interesting how I respond if she wants to work on things. I know that right now I still would, but would definitely want to take it slow (i.e. I would ask if we could set her up in her own place for a while and just hang out together, go on dates, have a family day here and there, etc). I would like to take it slow. Hopefully I won't have moved on if she ever decides to come back. Timing is everything!
