The visual of "angry flirting" is pretty funny Pud
Puddle, the angry flirter...would that be something like "Hey there, handsome, d*mn you to h*ll!!!" Another one would be a passive-agressive flirter: "Hey there handsome, I mean, I guess you are...whatever you think, I mean I don't know..."
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I think what I'm going for is being open while strong, back to my ultimate goal of emotional vulnerability combined with great strength.
I think this is great stuff; and actually something that i was touching on this morning in IC (not about you, of course ) Do I recall correctly from upstream that your more natural reaction is to be more remote and closed down as a show of strength? If so, that's a real part of what i had been doing for years and years...holding back in important, necessary convos with my H out of fear: of being wrong, of being rejected, of whatever else I was spinning/fretting over at the time...and we know how well that's been working out for me!
I think you are on the right track here...and the flirting can be part of that more open (and vulnerable) and strong you. To me, open doesn't mean sharing 100% unfiltered reactions to everything, or engaging in verbal diarrhea; you want to be open to sharing your feelings (like you said that guy did), and I don't think that has to be synonymous with being an open book... I think that's in line with what the mysterious, exotic Sunny recommends... I'm thinking that, at least for me, what feels more now like deliberate flirting with H was a more natural occurrance once upon a time, a looooooong time ago, when the R was lighter, happier and better.
Of course, all of this is predicated on you actually wanting to try this...sounds like a definite 180! And angry or passive-aggresive flirting is verboten!!
) Do I recall correctly from upstream that your more natural reaction is to be more remote and closed down as a show of strength? If so, that's a real part of what i had been doing for years and years...holding back in important, necessary convos with my H out of fear: of being wrong, of being rejected, of whatever else I was spinning/fretting over at the time...and we know how well that's been working out for me! 
