"So, what is your long range plan?" More important, I feel, was her tone of voice. I detected, or so I think, a note of anxiety. I emphatically replied that my plan was to fight for her, fight for our marriage because I love her and believe in us. That goes against DB principle of detachment (which I'd been pretty good at all along), but it was what I feel.
I think this was exactly right. You can make that statement and be detached. She asked. You answered. Perfect.
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So, any thoughts on how to go from here? I am well aware that we see what we believe, or want to believe, in many cases, so I'm asking myself if I'm reading these things too optimistically. I read things too pessimistically this summer
Don't try to see them anyway. Just go with the flow. Look at it this way. When you actually stood up for yourself, she cracked a little.
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I asked about dinner next week when I was there Wednesday, and she coyly said, "maybe." I think I'll leave that one alone now.
Exactly.
I didn;t save my marriage, but then, I didn't do what you are doing. Rome wasn't built in a day.
