I second what hairdog had to say. This is a war and it is a war that is fought best with plenty of back up. Make sure that you make your battle plan,line up your reinforcements, say your prayers and go forward with a big freakin battle cry. My Mom is a cancer survivor of multiple myeloma. She went through 2 years of treatment he!!
It took our entire family to get her through all the bone marrow transplants (2), through all the chemo, back and forth to clinical trials in another state, to do the research, to hold her hand, cry, yell and cry more. That was about 5 years ago. She has no detectable cancer at this point. The cancer she had is a form of bone cancer with a terrible 5 year survival rate. She is one of the toughest people I know. Through it all my family really had an intense ride - we said everything, touched a lot, hugged the crap out of each other and learned a tremendous amount.
When Mom was in the hospital having chemo Dad would drive in to the hospital an hour and a half from work and where they live, pop open a bottle of wine (for him not her but it was always their ritual), bring Mom fresh silk pj's, put the Do Not Disturb sign on the door of the room and spend the night with her EVERY night. In the morning he would do the hour and a half and go to work and do it all over again the next day. He did it every single night for the 2 weeks she would be in the hospital and do it again the next time she was scheduled to be there. The point of this is - DO it YOUR way. Don't lose yourself in the system.
