I guess many of these situations have similarities and common situations and feelings.
I think my W knew and knows how much she has betrayed me and also the marriage in general. She always maintained a very idealistic view and a romantic one and now she has done something that as you say she cannot take back, and the denial and the parallel universe or existance is quite remarkable.
I am doing very well for myself, and for the dogs, so hopefully that will radiate and trickle down to my W as well.
