1- Will she find my... habits.. too much to deal with? LN, that's peanuts, your habits are part of you, she accepted the whole package/deal
2-What if I see something that reminds me of last october... Chances are you will (I have to drive everyday to work on a street parallel to ow's home), then you say to yourself "I have slay this deamon already, it hurt, but now it is over) -f I show any anger or hurt, will she run off... It is normal to show hurt, just make sure you do it in a constructive way, without reproaching her, this way she can simpatize w/you without feeling attacked.
3-We had sex issues... affectionless marriage... Well, begin from first base, make it a point of kissing her and hugging her. Ask her what she likes, make new memories with her. No assumptions, lay it out in the open, tell her how attactive you find her (we love to hear that all the time btw ) and tell her how you want to begin a new loving R.
Smiling for you now
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.