our un-relationship

[Dom R]

To be honest, it feels like when he and I were married and he started taking up with xow. Only, because he won't put 'labels' on it...that makes it okay now.

i think that's what he's doing.

I think I'm going to sign up on Match.com myself. After all, since we're "not together" and he "doesn't have a girlfriend"...then I might as well "not date" as well, right? I really don't want anything serious, but why should I sit at home and miss out on all the fun?

btw: make sure, if he has a profile and you know about it, that it somehow manages to be a "90% match" or something, so you know it gets his attention

I want to make this about me and my boundaries...not about trying to "punish" him. I think he thinks I really will always be there to fall back on. It's time I'm not.

I think that in order to avoid the "vindictive" image, it's important to get into it gradually.
FIRST, state; "This is what I want: I'm not willing to deal with this two-timing garbage any more. "
State very specifically, what you cant put up with any more.

then see how he reacts.

then, only IF he is hard-nosed about it, be hard-nosed yourself.

In other words, dont to straight to, "get out until you shape up your life". Only go there, if you feel like you dont have any choice.

Firstly, because that's the "right" thing to do, in fairly confronting someone about an issue.

Secondly, because if you want things to work.. being separated SUCKS, for reconciliation.