Thanks. Yikes,I won't be drawing any lines for a while now. Whew. We have absolutely NO control, no ability to really get them to open up. I'm sure the neediness that stemmed from not knowing what he was thinking has affected me more than I realize. I think I "fished" for information too much and impeded happier and healthier moments.
I had no idea all that was in there. None. I mean, I never believed him when he said he didn't love me anymore... maybe had he looked me in the eye and said it I would have. He mentioned that he knew I never stopped believing in us and it "saved him"? Not sure what he meant by a lot he said, but just had to let him talk. I guess I just want to say that all those wise ones before us that said "ILYBINILWY" is a scripted response that basically means NOTHING are right. There is hope out there that the most closed off, conflict avoiding spouse in the world may just open up sometime when you least expect it. I think it's in there Aud, and you so deserve to hear it. The spouses of the posters here are so lucky.
But I still think I need to go back to reading here more and working harder at KLA because I find myself too easily sliding into old behavior patterns.
