Thanks for the encouragement. I'm happy for you and your W--14months is a long time to wait, but clearly for you it's worked out well. I am still willing to stand because I believe we can still be good for each other. She needs some things from me, and I'm working on those. I need some things from her. First, though, I feel I've got to show her to be able to get to the conversation where I tell her what I need from her. Getting from A to B takes several moves.
We seem to be back on the downward track. Someone saw her at a coffee shop and said she didn't look good. She was supposed to go away for two and a half days this weekend, but only went for a day. It was supposed to be time with her parents, but I suspect she's not wanting to see much of them for some reason. I suspect part of this MLC, if that's what it is, goes back to childhood, as the literature suggests. So parents may be hard to deal with now. But, I'm not walking too far down that road of speculation because I just don't know.
The other signs of downward travel are she said briefly in an email today that her trip was "weird and sad", and there's been no invitation to dinner this week. Given all I've read on these boards, the lack of invitation isn't surprising. It does hurt, but it's not surprising. She seems to still be cycling up and down, and frankly I don't want her back in this condition. She needs to get well, and I'm not sure I can help with that other than be there to do a few things around the house when I go there (rake leaves). Meanwhile, I'm on with GAL and happy about many new developments in my life. So, this saga goes on one day at a time like it does for all of us--up and down. Take care.
