Yeah, I thought so, too. I'm not so sure I buy that, now. (Seriously. Who sends cutesy ILY texts/messages to someone for months without turning physical??)
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So... he decided to drop the "married man" part, but keep the same behaviours?
Not exactly. He's not doing the out all night partying thing. He's not gone for hours on end, or overnight. I know all about his life; he's not this complete blank slate. He's not lying to me anymore. He's also worked really hard at his communication; he doesn't yell or just ditch me now. So, a bunch of those things are gone. His defense: But you know everything. Ugh. I really think he just doesn't know any better--but I don't think that makes it okay, either.
In retrospect, my gut kept telling me to do the 'tough love' approach back then. I just didn't listen. My gut said the same thing last year, while I was pregnant, and he was running around with TJ. So...I'm listening to my gut this time...
Honestly...nothing really changed...I just got p!ssed after something he said while we were getting physical. And I've been p!ssed since.
To be honest, it feels like when he and I were married and he started taking up with xow. Only, because he won't put 'labels' on it...that makes it okay now.
I think I'm going to sign up on Match.com myself. After all, since we're "not together" and he "doesn't have a girlfriend"...then I might as well "not date" as well, right? I really don't want anything serious, but why should I sit at home and miss out on all the fun?
Yes, I am feeling vindictive. But I really don't care at the moment. I'm tired of playing this stupid game.
I want to make this about me and my boundaries...not about trying to "punish" him. I think he thinks I really will always be there to fall back on. It's time I'm not.
After all, since we're "not together" and he "doesn't have a girlfriend"...then I might as well "not date" as well, right? I really don't want anything serious, but why should I sit at home and miss out on all the fun? 
