What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

Uggh....Does anyone have friends/family that just want to keep believing bad things about your husband or wife? All of my friends and family think that exh is not going to change and is skeptical of everything he does.

For example, I have been emailing a long distance friend that has really been there for me during my breakup with exh. Well, now that I have been pregnant and trying to work on this with him this friend has been the tower of negativity. When I first found out I was pregnant this friend was telling me that I can raise this baby on my own and don't even need exh. Now the latest email I was telling him that exh has been really great and how hard he seems to be trying.

This was his response:

Then there is xxxx. He's tragically flawed... destined to hurt you forever because he doesn't love himself. He needs stroking too... for now he'll live on the stroking of OW wanting him and him getting to play the indifferent one. Eventually OW will move on and xxxx will feel 'not so special' anymore and he'll go looking for more stroking (or alcohol).

You probably never will be able to trust him. Deep down you KNOW who xxxx is... you love him anyway. You can't let him go; he's an addiction... an addiction to pain, to struggle, to believing people who love you hurt you. Do you think?


I know parts of this may be true, but its always so negative. When I tell this friend how happy exh seems and how much progress we have made, he always comes back with something negative.

Is it me being too sensitive?