That all actually came from a book I read called Peace Between the Sheets (I hope you get it ). It's all about sex without orgasm.
I'm already on Amazon.com looking it up. Thanks
I'm kinda a BTDT LD woman, someone who has worked very hard to get over my LDness. When I began dating my current bf, I had lingering LD and past sexual issues that were getting in the way of where I wanted to be, in terms of being sexually confident and in control of my own 'desire,' and expression thereof.
I'm beginning to gain some of that sexual confidence back. I don't know where IC picked up on it, but by him somewhat backing away and loosening HIS grip on control, it has allowed me to take more charge in expressing myself....which in turn has increased my desire. Don't take this the wrong way...IC is not a control freak but when it came to sex, it was like he was programmed to go about it in a certain way. Kwim?
Peace Between the Sheets, for me, was an amazing way for me to relax and truly enjoy myself. My BF was skeptical in what it would do for HIM, but he was certainly willing to try it for me. He was pretty amazed at what the different techniques and suggestions in the book did to enhance his own sexual pleasure and satisfaction. I mean, it really stunned him.
I was clueless as to what IC was doing, I was just basically going along with his lead and let things happen as they will. But wow! Yea, relaxing and truly enjoying myself is putting it lightly. Did you guys read it together or was it something that you read and then took things out of it and suggested to your BF?
To me, sexual enjoyment is far more than trying new positions and new toys, etc., etc. Not many realize how actually upping the emotional/spiritual/energy connection between you and your partner increases physical pleasure in the most unbelievable and astounding ways. To me, it puts what I guess I'd call the 'American Garden Variety' of sex to shame.
Like I said, it sounds kinda 'corny' when you first read it... but you felt it, didn't you? You still feel it, I bet...? I dunno. I give IC lots and lots of credit for trying it out, just to see what might happen. I wonder what he thinks of it all... ???
Corri, I can't explain this, I really can't. I can't explain the feeling...it was like an emotional orgasm as opposed to a physical one...if that makes any sense. I'm really at a loss for words to describe the connection but yes, I felt it and still do
IC comes across as this teenage kid with the raging hormones and that sex is just that..sex. But when it comes down to it, he's not about that at all. I feel now that he is looking for that emotional connection and THAT is what had been missing in our relationship - not just from him, but from me as well.
I don't have any control over IC... not any more control over him than the guys had over me, long ago when I first started here. I wanted to change (and I mean, I really wanted it). The men here helped me do it. IC wants to change (and I mean, really want it). And people here are helping him, because he is willing TO BE helped. HE's the one doing it. Not us.
IC HAS changed and knowing him like I do, he's not done. He'll never be done, he'll never "settle" or be satisfied with where we are at. He's happy and enjoying life, but he will always be striving for a greater happiness. It's kind of like he's on a ride, he's enjoying it, but yet it can't end...he won't let it end - and that's good I'm not his equal on this, I'm learning my footwork, but right now he's carrying me. Thanks guys for helping my...what did IC call himself ?? My little crash test dummy?
Please wish him well guys..this sounds like a pretty invasive surgery and even though he won't show it, he's nervous. IC will never ask for it, but I know the emotional support will do him well and he's not really getting much from his family on this. Ever since I've known him, he's always been the one reaching out to them. They're about to have one angry, pissed off Miss IC on their hands and they WON'T like that ! But IC doesn't need that on his mind right now.
