Okay, a little updating here. Last week I had a couple of blue days while H was out of town. Pulled myself out of it. Thought some of it had to do with that time of the month. But the morning after H came back, he talked to me a little about his depression (which I have felt was returning, I'd even told my girlfriend that a few days before.) Then I realized - I think I got blue because I was reacting to his depression! That's always been a problem - me REACTING to his moods, instead of maintaining my usually good mood and pulling him into that. I need to be careful of this.
I was glad H was able to mention it to me. Just before he left on that last trip, our copy of Newsweek came with a cover article about men and depression - I didn't get to read it because he took it with him - obviously he did read it.
Yesterday, he was talking about an office retreat he has set up for the fall. Then he jokingly (semi?) said next he should set up a retreat for men who are afraid of death and dying! Well, that was huge - I think that's the first time I've ever heard him volunteer that thought, even though I tried to get our MC to address it and always felt that was a big part of what was going on with my H.
H got to surf, sleep, surf some more, go to the movies with me and the kids (The Italian Job - fun). So I think Father's Day was good for him.
I am worried about his depression but relieved that he seems to have more insight into it and is willing to talk to me about it.
Off topic - S16 and I are starting a 12 week Body for Life challenge today! S needs to lose weight and get into shape, and I'd like to lose 10-15 more lbs. and get more muscle definition. Need to grocery shop, set up our meal plans, our workout schedule, and take our "before" pictures!
I haven't had too much time to check out threads, but thanks for stopping by mine!
That's great that your H expressed his feelings to you! Good luck on the challenge! I took the b/4 pictures last week, haven't developed them yet, but it will be nice to see them when I have the after pictures too! Hopefully there will be a big difference!
Also, we are leaving Hawaii on February 20!! HURRAY!!! I'll miss the weather here, but it will be nice to get back and see family! H talks so much about how our life will be in the future, he's changed so much. I know last night was just a little bump in the road, but it's no big deal. I think I got nervous, but it passed, thank goodness.
Body for life, huh? Sounds interesting. I'd make a pretty good "before" picture myself right now.
But this is YOUR thread, keep us posted on your progress and perhaps some of your enthusiasm will rub off on me!
Glad to hear your H talking about his Depression. My H hasn't mentioned his own...didn't know he even WAS depressed until last August...last I heard he felt "good". Men!
You have truly inspired me. I love reading your thread. I just wish I could get past this "girlfriend" thing. I mean...we are divorced and it just bugs me. I am really letting it all get to me. I don't want to be brought down by XH moods....but...I have always reacted.
Can you stop by my thread and lend me a hand. I need some advise. Not sure what I do now? Why does he spew anger and then call back a few hours later in a totally different mood. I think he has manic depression? Not sure.
