Down and out...need hope.

[DownNotOut...yet]

You should have huge PMA right now. Just don't let her see you get like an over excited puppy. Cool and serene. Imagine if Kane from Kung-Fu just won the lottery.

I don't think you should even be thinking about her feelings being in line with what is right. That still sounds like the urge to control or mold things to how you think it should be.

Your DB'ing question regarding your weakness is tough to answer without being able to see how you were in the past. I think I get what you are saying about not creating the schedule so to speak. So if creating a schedule would be a 180, try it. Someone around here made the great analogy about setting the timing on your car. Make a tweak, see how the R runs. If better, keep going. If worst, try something else. Small tweaks I think. A drink, a lunch. That might be OK. A trip for just to two of you is too much way too soon I think. Maybe think about it as starting over from scratch. Would you take your new girlfriend away on a trip after only a month together?

Sounds like you do know what your changes are. Just stick to the party line. Do more of what works, less of what doesn't. If you got this far, I bet in the near future, she may actually begin to tell you what is working and what changes she appreciates. Don't ask her though, wait for her to tell you.