Down and out...need hope.

[DownNotOut...yet]

Hey Tostada, haven't posted to you in a while since you are in such good hands with Rob and Sandi. I have checked on you every day though.

HA! and look at your posts from September. I am very, very, very happy for you.

Some other thoughts; First, what Rob said, don't relax...well sort of relax. Now you should be able to lighten up and breath a bit. Be a little less hyper sensitive. Be fun and light. DO NOT relax your DBing. You want to do more DBing but sort of be more stealthy. Talk less about R. Just be cool and fun.

DO NOT get overly, outwardly, excited. This is great news but your work here ain't over yet.

DO NOT get freaked if the R seems to move forward but then a week later things slip back a bit. It will happen, or appear to happen. When things start to improve, people start to get expectations. When those expectation (which may or may not be reasonable) are not met, even if things ARE improving and moving forward, we LBS tend to wig out. It is real easy to do. Beware of this pit fall. It can really set you back.

BTW I agree about the timeframe thing. I even heard similar from my W. If you accomplish your goals, the timeframe won't mean a thing.

DON'T PUSH on the working on the relationship. Her idea of trying 100% is NOT going to be your idea of trying 100%. I promise you this. Take what she gives. Most likely she has been wounded deeper and will take longer to heal than you can possibly grasp. Any step forward is good, even just not going backward is still good. Patience.

Congratulations, I can't recall being happier for someone I have never met.