Hey RHW, I am sorry about your weekend but I am glad you are stronger and have positive expectations about what's coming.
About the thread I guess I will be doing one of the 12 steps things and live day by day, it's really hard for me to do that as I am the type who likes to build plans for the future, guess the upside though is that I will have an opportunity to seize the day.
I wonder if the underlying question we all have is if a cheater will always be a cheater.
There's one thing that I read that was helpful, may be it's not the best approach but I have a long learning curve to go through yet. I read, I think in the marriage builder's that the issue is that we shouldn't have trusted them unconditionally in the first place. Because things changes and people are unpredictable with their flaws. So I don't feel the obligation of fully trusting him again yet which relieves some of the pressure. May be we can have professional goals,so and so family goals,material goals ... but when it is about just that piece of relationship between two people we can never tell.
