turning up the flirting factor sounds like a really good idea, plus it might be fun.
It *has* to be fun! Nothing to turn you off like pathetic, angry flirting!
I'm not much of a flirter---I'm pretty oblivious, actually---but I'm working on it. Even ordered some, um, books.
The visual of "angry flirting" is pretty funny Pud. Nothing wrong with researching it for tips, although I'm much better at flirting than the actual relationship, I got some good stuff out of John Grey's 'Venus & Mars on a Date' book years ago.
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Second, I'd been thinking, well, I'm not going to be weak, so if that's what he wants, he'll have to look elsewhere. But I think I've been confusing weakness with emotional vulnerability. In fact, I think I've *always* done that, and I've had a real struggle letting anyone be close enough to see me wrestling with any issues, appearing weak.
I'm right with you on this and trying to be more available emotionally.
I think it may be good to share that with him, although since I have the same difficulty, it's hard to know. I'll be interested to hear what others that are more open have to say. Sounds like it would be a good way to exercise getting out of your comfort zone, which is always scary/fun.
