Miss IC:

That all actually came from a book I read called Peace Between the Sheets (I hope you get it \:\) ). It's all about sex without orgasm.

I'm kinda a BTDT LD woman, someone who has worked very hard to get over my LDness. When I began dating my current bf, I had lingering LD and past sexual issues that were getting in the way of where I wanted to be, in terms of being sexually confident and in control of my own 'desire,' and expression thereof.

Peace Between the Sheets, for me, was an amazing way for me to relax and truly enjoy myself. My BF was skeptical in what it would do for HIM, but he was certainly willing to try it for me. He was pretty amazed at what the different techniques and suggestions in the book did to enhance his own sexual pleasure and satisfaction. I mean, it really stunned him.

I think everyone has to read that book (or articles like "Energy and Eros") and put their own 'spin' or interpretation to how apply in their own lives. But... you seem to have found personal benefit and enjoyment with it, yes?

To me, sexual enjoyment is far more than trying new positions and new toys, etc., etc. Not many realize how actually upping the emotional/spiritual/energy connection between you and your partner increases physical pleasure in the most unbelievable and astounding ways. To me, it puts what I guess I'd call the 'American Garden Variety' of sex to shame.

Like I said, it sounds kinda 'corny' when you first read it... but you felt it, didn't you? You still feel it, I bet...? I dunno. I give IC lots and lots of credit for trying it out, just to see what might happen. I wonder what he thinks of it all... ???

I don't have any control over IC... not any more control over him than the guys had over me, long ago when I first started here. I wanted to change (and I mean, I really wanted it). The men here helped me do it. IC wants to change (and I mean, really want it). And people here are helping him, because he is willing TO BE helped. HE's the one doing it. Not us. \:\)

At any rate, check out that book... and take a gander at the web site link I posted, too...