Still trying - Not very well

[LoginName]

Hi, hope you don't mind me butting in. Price you pay for being on a public board :-)

limbo, I don't see a link to your other threads, so I haven't read your history. But even not knowing your sitch, I can tell you somethings that are true, that Heartbroken seems to know.

The OW doesn't matter. Really. It's so hard to accept and believe, but it's true. I've been there. Yes it hurts, it shakes you to your soul, but it's not important. In a way, it's your pain, your issue, to deal with, not your H's. Maybe he'll help you with the pain, chances are her won't. It's your issue. Allow yourself to cry, scream, hurt over it, but it's not important to your relationship. The OW is a symptom. Treat the cause.

I'm sure you've already heard this, but don't snoop. Don't. The OW doesn't matter. This is so hard to understand and do, but so important, not just to your R with H, but to you and your health and well being.

And like Heartbroken said, slow down. Give him space, lots of space, almost more space than you can stand. Detach a bit. And always, always GAL with a PMA. Take care of yourself.

I tried too hard at first. I wanted my W to read 5LL, other books, to talk about R, everything. I only made progress when I went back to the basics, Get a Life, Positive attitude, give her space. And doing all this for myself, not to win her back.

I look forward to learning your sitch and watching you acheive what you really need. I hope you don't mind me butting in, if you do, just say so.

Best wishes,