Even those of you who are globally pi$$ed off and discouraged... find one thing about your R or partner that you are grateful for in the last couple of days.
It doesn't mean you're "over" the hurt, or even that you've forgiven him or her for whatever grievance you have. You can still be mad, hurt, and unsatisfied (goodness knows, that's something I'm very good at).
Just one thing you're grateful for. Your partner need never know! It's our secret.
Lots of people are reading this thread... I'm grateful for those who have crawled out into the clearing to "play" (as Balto aptly put it).