Slow and steady wins the race. After about 14 months of separation, My W and I started to date. We took it slowly. As a matter of fact, for the first few "dates", there was no physical contact. I would take chances and put my hand on the small of her back to guide her through crowds, brush up against her gently, etc. But for the most part, I would let her be the instigator of most actions. This included conversations. I would not initiate, but I would respond when the issue was brought up. It was tough to do, but I figured there was no other option.
You're right. She is saying "Who is this guy?". She's feeling you out, trying to see if the old Bruce is going to poke his head out . She's looking for any reason to justify her stance on the M. As long as you continue to show her the "new" Bruce, she will slowly come back to you. At least that is what worked for me. Just give it time. What do you have to lose at this point?
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
