2007 Holding On But It's Not Looking Good.

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You are telling my story almost exactly. Also had a few stressors which caused some, I guess, evaluation on xw's part. Long story short, not only did she have no passion for me, she claims she never did (three kids later). Unfortunately, I am now D and living 2 miles from her, we share the kids 50-50 and we are both suffering. She even asked me to come over and hook up (after destroying our life). I declined.

That said, there are some who have made it. But it sounds like, barring some miracle, you might want to start planning your new life without her. Yep, she is on your mind all the time, but reality slowly creeps in, and you have to begin to fend for yourself.

I now have a beautiful house right near the lake, lots of friends, fulfilling job, and a giant gaping hole in the bed next to me. I'm not near healthy enough yet to start dating, so am just coasting along, waiting to heal. Only you can decide what to do, but at some point you have to move ahead. My plan was to move ahead, make a great life for myself, and then find someone who WANTS to be there with me. I already have one who has voted with her feet (and $50k in atty fees).