New perspective?

[Larrynarry]

You are not kidding... if he's there, I know he will flaunt it a little.

I know he's scared of me... he's already admitted as much.

At the very least.. I need to have my brother there. 6'5" 270. He can keep me in line.

I would imagine that if I request a friend or two be there in the case that he is, she would back off.

I would *HOPE* that she's at least intelligent enough to figure that out.

[Yoyowife]

Your wife infuriates me. She should win the mother of the year contest!

Have you thought about separate parties for your DD? One for your family and friends and let her wonderful mother throw her one also. I bet the second wouldn't happen, but this way you could insure that you get to handle the invite list. Tell alien wife she is invited, but she can't bring any guests without your approval since you will be throwing this party. I know this sounds complicated, but it's a thought.

[Larrynarry]

It's funny. She actually suggested this way so that she could avoid the scorn of "family and friends". This is supposed to be for their friends only.

I'll see how this one goes, but next year may be a little different.

[hopeforfuture]

Here's hoping that next year is a lot different and hopefully much better.

[Larrynarry]

I agree with that.

So W calls this morning and asks that I bring in extra clothes for D3. She has a little backpack that we keep an extra set of clothes in while she's potty training. Now.. I've told her that I don't have any extra clothes, but I took a pair of jeans in.

Once again... only calls when she wants something.

Drop D's off at school. Is it bad that I'm starting to lose attraction towards her?

Nothing major.. she was checking out the outfits I got them this weekend and the new earrings (I have asked her for over a week to put some in) I got them.

I dropped D's off in their class and they both had great drop offs... anyone who has kids in daycare knows what I mean!!

Stopped back by W's room to help her take something off the wall. There was this HOT blonde that had come in with her D. I noticed that she was in my W's class, so I asked W who she was. She didn't like that... she smacked my arm and said "That's not nice!!" I said "What?"

Anyway.. I'm assuming it's because of how fallen apart I had been in the past, but she asked (and she usually does) how I'm doing.. and looks at me with these sad puppy eyes. I smiled and said "I'm great!! How are you" to which she replied she was good. She said I looked good and I returned the compliment.

I've also noticed the last few times she's been wearing coats/zip ups that aren't hers. UGH.

Anyway... here's to a good day!! Happy Monday all!

[hopeforfuture]

I dropped D's off in their class and they both had great drop offs... anyone who has kids in daycare knows what I mean!!

I remember those days. Many a time, I would have to get S over by the books and sit down with him to read. He would often have morning melt downs, but once I left he would be fine.

Stopped back by W's room to help her take something off the wall. There was this HOT blonde that had come in with her D. I noticed that she was in my W's class, so I asked W who she was. She didn't like that... she smacked my arm and said "That's not nice!!" I said "What?"

Good for you.

I smiled and said "I'm great!! How are you" to which she replied she was good.

Great attitude. Keep it up.

[fightingirish]

JH,

You are so funny... liked the hot blond comment.. and WTF.. she smacks you just for asking who she is. and she's the one having the A... uuhhh what is that!!!


tal

[Larrynarry]

I know right!!

It's so backwards I have a hard time comprehending it sometimes. I did have to chuckle at her parents though. Evidently W made a comment to her mom that she thought I had a girlfriend or was seeing a girl. Her mom was in shock that she would bring it up like I'm the one doing wrong. Her dad simply said "Shall I point you to a mirror young lady?"

Funny people.

I wonder what would happen if I really did start seeing someone?

I've stopped doing research on her (meaning affair books etc) and I've been spending time on me and the girls. I'll get back into it, but it will be casually.

Anyway.. I'm sure one of the affair books would explain it. My guess is I would be attacked for giving up on our marriage.. then she would attempt to strengthen R with OM.. it falls apart and she starts chasing me.

Sounds kinda fun!!

I've tested the waters on this a little, I've made comments about "girlfriends" and her reactions are always sharp. I need to be careful though as the other day she said "I think you're just messing with me".. touchee (did I spell that right?). I can honestly say I'm not lying to her, but a part of me is saying certain things to get her goat. I guess that's called "temperature checking"?

[hopeforfuture]

Jar,
I think this is one of those situations that could go either way. Either it helps to justify their relationship with OP or you become the object of pursuit.

I am currently talking to a woman that I met the other weekend that definitely expressed interest in me. Problem is, she doesn't want to be the 'other' woman and I also don't want to put someone in that position. Damn conscience. I've told my W that I was talking to this person and she handled it a bit differently than at one point in the past when I told her I had been talking with someone at work. Last time was when she was in the middle of the A and she seemed thrilled that I had met someone. She chatted with me like a girlfriend about her. This time the mood was a bit more somber. I'm hoping that maybe this will open her eyes to the reality that she could easily lose me.

[fightingirish]

jh,

Yes be careful, you don't want to push her too far away. But keeping her guessing is great, ahhh the game of cat and mouse..

yes focus on yourself and the girls, its a healthy thing to do. You need to make yourself feel good for a change!

tal