at church today, the pastor mentioned that statistics show the average first marriage lasts 5 years....
If you think about it, it's probably so common for Ds nowadays that no one gets the chance to really see if they can muddle thru the bad times. back in the day, people didn't just get a D when things got rough, and I bet that a lot of them would say 5 years was a tough time but they got thru it. who knows, just speculating.
I'm totally not surprised by that statistic. Many of our friends reached the 5-7 year mark, and all heck broke loose. Many divorces, a couple of A's, just tough times. It's like that's when the shine completely wears off and we decide to speak up.
My parents told me they hit a point in their M where there was just a lot of what they term "hall sex" going on. They'd just pass each other and flip each other off--either literally or figuratively. But they had strong religious views and stayed together until they decided to work on making it and themselves better. They're very happy now, but I know there were a rough few years.
Nikki--sorry the color didn't work out, but the positive is that you know you don't want *that* color. I love the idea of a soft green or a soft blue...it would be tranquil. I hope you took some time to take care of YOU too this weekend!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
