Hi Kel--thanks for chiming in. In a wierd way, it makes me happy to think that my insecurities can help someone else feel more normal--they're good for something that way. And I very much appreciate the perspectives of my friends here.
It sounds like your family is in the midst of a really big change, and though you're right that the innocent life will never be yours again, and you have to keep your eyes open, it seems to me that major life change will magnify the insecurities and fears. I think if we just keep putting one foot in front of the other, we'll keep distancing ourselves from the trauma of the past.
And what if? As one of my good friends put it, it's H's hands that will be dirty, not mine.
And I very much appreciate the perspectives of my friends here.
