jar, I feel for you. We had to have D3's birthday party FIVE days after H's confession. I wanted to cancel, he said "Its not for us, its for D3". He was right, I got through it. However, he let me plan it and did what I told him to do. ;\) Are you trying to plan it together? Maybe you can separate the tasks? PLEASE don't tell me she wants to invite OM's kids??? Or is this a family thing.

Don't get off the ride yet. You can hop off to get your bearings, but you are doing well. It bites.