sigh. back to "impossible" again.

We actually had a somewhat positive halloween together. I was looking forward to her coming over for "dinner with weekend kid pickup" thing.

Then at a birthday party we were both loosely attending, I mentioned to her, something I thought would be a POSITIVE thing:

"If you want help (moneywise) with splitting the costs of something we did, all you have to do is ask".

She got all huffy, and left.

I got brief online contact with her, to ask her why she was upset.

Her reply: "You just wanted me to BEG".

She then broke contact. and didnt show up for dinner. sent her father instead.

The impossible part:
Usually, most conversation "Self help" books suggest showing empathy for the other person's situation.

Seems like in half the cases, saying to her, "Yes, I see how you could get that impression from what i did/said", makes her MORE LIKELY to hang up/leave/....


gah....



Last edited by Dom R; 11/05/07 02:49 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle