New to Piecing -- again

[peaceful_spirit]

Lord Greenville,
I just read your post on my other thread (I posted two identical posts by accident). So, In attempt to keep only one going, I'm copying and pasing your question in this one...

Hi Peaceful Spirit,

I wish you the best of luck in your piecing efforts. You sound like you've summoned up amazing amounts of patience. Keep up the faith and no matter what happens you will know that your spirit made every loving attempt to support the bond of love with your husband's spirit.

Could I ask you a question or two? My wife and I are meeting with a mediator for two hours tomorrow (11/5/07), and she seems determined to dissolve our marriage. Do you believe that any of the conversations or process of mediation led to your husband's change of heart?

I am trying to figure out how I should best handle my end of the conversations. She wants to talk about division of assets, but I still am having a hard time accepting that our almost 20 year marriage could be over in a few weeks, with no understanding of what happened. She still has not ever expressed or explained what led her to decide the marriage was over for her (and she had never verbally indicated dissatisfaction with our marriage). Maybe this is just another example of a MLC/OM affair/reality shift, that can have no logic or reason factored in.

What happened in my case was after mediation, we talked for about an hour in the parking lot. Well, actually I did all the talking. I just had said that I didn't know what happened to him and that I was woried about who he had become. I asked why he did waht he did, etc... I ended it by giving him the name of a C and suggesting he go. I think some things I had said during that convo got to him.

My advice to you is to be calm, nice and in control of your emotions. Keep it like a business arrangement.

Good luck to you.