I could do an entire post of favorites from that show!!
Crutch.. WTF?
I wonder if they even remember the good times? I've felt like asking about certain times and things where I've been Super Man in the support dept, but then I think better of it.
Like when she blew her knee out.. who took care of EVERYTHING while she was laid up on the couch for a month?
Or how about when she had a tummy tuck and liposuction (MIL paid BTW.. not me!!) and was laid up for a month.
Hmmm me again.
That's where I know she's crazy... CRAZY!!!
Unfortunately, it also makes me guarded about being that open to someone else again.
Unfortunately, it also makes me guarded about being that open to someone else again.
Oh yes. I look around at men (and women!) and think "I wonder if he's/she's a cheater....". Yuck.
And yep, H has had a back injury and two hand surgeries in the last few years. Guess he forgot that part, huh? UGH But no use reminding them now, they aren't listening.
I think all WAS deal with some sort of depression/self esteem issues. I know H was/is depressed as well. They don't want help from us, that's for sure, but I see him pushing everyone away as well.
And yes, OW is not our only problem. Like I said to H, "You took a bad situation that we BOTH created, and possibly made it unfixable by having an A, instead of coming to me".
So true lwb. W and I have had almost identical conversations. She always would bring up that OG is not the problem. I even talked about it in counseling, that I agreed OG wasn't the cause of the problem, but he was sure making it difficult to work on things in the present. She couldn't say too much to that.
Wow.. so W texts me earlier to say she will call D's around 6. I tell her to call cell and of course she asks where I am. I told her I was at the parents house and she said OK.
Well.. 6:55 she finally calls. Nice seeing as how the D's go to bed at 7.
No pleasantries.. she's not even civil when we talk about D3's B-day party. What the H did I do?
I wanted to scream at her. Called from her cell, so she's probably with OM.
jar, I feel for you. We had to have D3's birthday party FIVE days after H's confession. I wanted to cancel, he said "Its not for us, its for D3". He was right, I got through it. However, he let me plan it and did what I told him to do. Are you trying to plan it together? Maybe you can separate the tasks? PLEASE don't tell me she wants to invite OM's kids??? Or is this a family thing.
Don't get off the ride yet. You can hop off to get your bearings, but you are doing well. It bites.
Wow... you are a mind reader. So far the plan is to have it on my weekend. My concern is obviously that his kids will be there. If it's my weekend, it would be his ex and her man. Maybe he would stay away?
I have to ask... because if he is going to be there, I will need a friend or two of mine. I will get physical... just how I am.
BTW.. I'm a huge Johnny Cash fan and I'm watching "Walk the Line" for the first time. Excellent movie. Very fitting given our situations!!
I love to karaoke!! My co-workers call me Jesse Cash!!
D5 already has her birthday 'invite' list (her bday is in December LOL) and OW's D is the first one on there. OW's H (if I decide to invite her) will bring her, I will make sure of that. But, really, he doesn't want to see MY H, so that might not be a good idea either. He has been peaceful up until now though. But, honestly, D5 will understand if I say "___ is not able to come" and move on, so I think I might do that.
If its on YOUR weekend, he better not freaking come. Heck, even if its your W's weekend, he still better not come!!! That is just wrong and of course, the day is about D3 and you have NO idea what your emotions will do with him there. I would stipulate that his ex bring them if they come at all. That's just ridiculous.
I have to ask... because if he is going to be there, I will need a friend or two of mine. I will get physical... just how I am.
Check. It's a good way to be. Threat to family, address it.
But....
Stay Safe, Stay Sane.
Good call, 2 big friends to keep your better self in line.
What's right isn't always what's OK.
You know what I mean bro, keep it together.
You're doing great at this. This party is the perfect opportunity to be the bigger man. The better man. The guy who connects with the kids and everybody else. She'll see it.
But God#($*-it that's gonna be hard.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Are you trying to plan it together? Maybe you can separate the tasks? PLEASE don't tell me she wants to invite OM's kids??? Or is this a family thing. 