The best way to really put the past behind you and start fresh is to go to a Retrouvaille weekend. There you and your husband will learn new ways to communicate and listen to the other person. It clears out the debris from the past and sets you on a new course in the marriage -- one where you have the tools to deal with problems when they arise. Go to http://www.helpourmarriage.com to see where and when the upcoming weekends are. They only have about 4/year in any place, so do it as soon as possible.
