My dad was a marine and was in the vietnam war, he showed us absoutely no affection what so ever. Never once said I love you. Although I know he does, just can't show it. the first time he actually hugged me was when his own father died, he was devasted.
My H's dad, crazy and derranged as he is, is affectionate and says ILY to my H.. so I guess that's where my H gets it from.
But Saffie.. your right, it does have a lot to do with your own parents. My Mom is very affectionate and loving women to us so maybe that's why i feel the way I do about my own kids.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I'm sorry husband, but you know that your dada loved you.
My dad left home at 14 because his parents didn't love him and consequently my dad has had a lot of problems showing love in his life. He also has this inability to apologise for things even though he is in the wrong.
You have grown up a caring man.
I am sorry if I have made you feel bad about your dad and miss him - that is not what I intended.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
no problem, Too many times we forget to think about the ones that have passed. As long as they are in our memories they are alive. I have went and "talked" to my dad. It helped.
Was going to try to stay off here today but it looks like I failed. going home now I may be on later.
Manuel
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Thanks all... funny.. I'm 3rd generation Marine. Dad was in Vietnam as well. I love the guy, but he was an emotionless robot. That's definitely caused problems for me and my R's. No questions.
As for the W.. she lives in her own Apt. I don't get it either. She says that everything she does is for the D's, but anyone who is watching knows that's not the truth.
lwb - Love the "I'll have the #4 with a side of you've been a horrible person to me for 3 years"
Actually.. I get the "He's not the cause of our problems"
Which I know.. but he's a problem now!!
The worst was when we had a conversation as "friends" and she complained about something OM was doing. She said "No offense, but that's why I left you"
I felt like that episode of Scrubs "I have an order here for a ton of bricks..."
Once again, jar, we have something in common. Scrubs is one of my all time favorite shows.
And yes, OW is not our only problem. Like I said to H, "You took a bad situation that we BOTH created, and possibly made it unfixable by having an A, instead of coming to me".
Scrubs rocks... my favorite one so far (W hated it, so I'm in ketchup mode )
was the one with Heather Locklear and they are having a dinner outside.. Heather leans over the table and puts the "girls" in Perry's face. He says "Unless those things dispense A-1 sauce, you need to back those puppies up" I've never laughed so hard!!
We are so there... everytime she would say "He's not the problem.. we were messed up before" and the latest "He's not the problem.. your mess is why I left"
I always counter with the "Great way to fix the problem.. run to someone else"
I'm sick of it. She's ALWAYS ran from her problems instead of hitting them head on.
Oh well.. I'm better off and she'll be running again soon.
lwb... do you have friends who remind you of how much of a winner you were in the R? That's one thing that definitely helps me as well. I have some good friends who remind me of quite a bit that makes me go "Oh yeah.. what the H is wrong with her?"
Not only do I have friends, but I have H's family who already call me St. LWB for even marrying H. If they only knew what was going on, I know I would be supported. Honestly though, they will need to support H if we separate, and I will tell them that. I have done nothing but support H and enjoyed being married to him. One thing that surprised me last night was he said "You were supposed to be my crutch, and you weren't there.". HUH?? Crutch?
But yes, when I am wallowing in the possibility that I might have actually been as horrible as he says I am, someone/something will remind me otherwise. NOTHING I did warranted him having an A. He should have walked out first. And yes, H has always been a runner, like your W.
LOL H can't understand why I would love Scrubs (such a stupid show). I totally remember that scene, by the way. LOL!!! I love Perry Cox.
