What do I do with her?

[Mike is Hurtin']

I know!! Sometimes, I want to ask him when its MY turn to share MY grievances??? They know this, and are expecting it. One book I read said there is a time and place for our complaints and worries, and that is during reconciliation. Makes sense, but not fair, huh?

In an odd sense, it is fair. I could unleash a torrent of expletives on W right now, but it would wash off like water on a duck's back. In fact, it would probably make things worse, since (as Theo explained earlier in this thread) it would make the A seem all the more dangerous and rebellious and "fun".

If we never reconcile, then there's no point in wasting my energy on her. I'll go to the gym and get my frustrations out physically (and legally). If we do reconcile, my words will have the most impact when she's actually listening to me and thinking about what I have to say.

Fairness went out the window when she cheated on me, unfortunately. All we can do is the "right thing" - to make sure we can look at ourselves in the mirror every morning and know that we're being the better man/woman.

Cheers,
-- Mike