W and I attended marriage counseling for a few weeks. She dropped out after the second session; her excuse was that there was too much "bashing" going on. I vehemently disagree with this assessment; at no point would I characterize any of our discussions as "bashing", and I took the bulk of the criticisms despite her affair, which she did NOT tell the counselor about.
I am continuing to see the counselor on my own. Right now we're getting together once weekly, and that feels about "right" for the time being.
I also run a blog, and have done a fair bit of writing about what's going on. Obviously I don't plunge into a lot of detail (I certainly don't talk about things like the affair and OG, etc.); most of what I'm writing about is my own response and reaction to this. That helps a lot - and it's amazing how many people have emailed me out of the blue, to share their own experiences.
It really is amazing how a community of people can help.
-- Mike
Mike is Hurtin': Me: 32 W: 32 No kids M: 8 years, T: 10 years Bomb: ILYBINILWY: 9/11/07 Seperated: 10/13/07
W still states OM is just a friend, and the kiss on 06/2007 was a one-time thing.
