Ellie, I am so happy for you! Gives me so much hope.
You are doing AWESOME!
I am so much struggling with wanting to trust H and have stability. Your quote (follows) has been a Godsend to me today.
"What I think IS important is being able to allow yourself to be vulnerable in the relationship again. To allow yourself to take that risk again, without putting up defenses that get in the way of true intimacy. Without witholding part of yourself from the R. And I guess this is where all the work on ourselves and loving detachment comes in, because the idea of taking that risk is not quite so scary when you are confident of yourself and your ability to have a good life on your own if necessary. When you are able to see that your spouse's choices are not a valid commentary on your own worth. When you no longer need the security blanket of thinking they will provide all of your emotional needs."
Thank you. Keep up the good work and your H sounds like a great guy.
