So W called the D's last night... she called from her cell, and I could tell she wasn't home.
She talked with D's and then we talked for a couple of minutes. Mostly about what we did while we were out, but it was very friendly. I got the impression she was surprised at how nice I was being. Not sure why.
I told her to have a good night and she said the same.
I was hoping for a text either last night or this morning, but nothing.
I wish she would just come to her senses and come home.
Bah... anyway.. hope you all moved your clocks forward!!!
Is she still at her mom's house?? I don't know how she stays away from her children, and having them cry on top of it, no way. Wild horses couldn't keep me from my kids, they are such a part of me, it would be like my leaving my arms at home.
I know there are lots of women out there who behave like your W does, with their children that is and I just don't get it. I would cut off my own leg just so I wouldn't hurt them. Its a mystery to me. There just isn't anything more important than them. I know not all people feel that way, but its just so hard to understand how you Couldn't feel that way!
Just be there for them, is so so important, you are doing great job. This age is so critical.
Keep up the diplomatic side of yourself, it will keep her wondering, and hopefully she will "snap" out of it.
You have a good sunday also!
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Wild horses couldn't keep me from my kids, they are such a part of me, it would be like my leaving my arms at home.
Tal,
I feel the same way. Not to highjack your thread Jar and NOT SAYING YOUR W IS DOING THIS BUT... My first W left one night and left me with a 3 mo and 4 year old D's. She has never come back and has not talked to them in 20 years. I later found out she has addicted to Drugs. In some peoples minds I guess some things are more important to a person who's mind is in a fog.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I did remember you saying that, unbelieveable. There are a lot of messed up people in this world, including these mothers who kill their children, I just can't stomach it, it makes me physcially sick.
instinct is you protect your children, some people don't have it I guess. Sometimes I feel like a wild animal when something happens to them.. its overwelming!
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
But thank God there are people Like Jar and us that do still care. you would not beleive the parents that just drop the kids off at the little league ball games and don't show up to one Game. I guess they have better things to do. Is it really a wonder that kids are showing up in schools killing others just to get attention?
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
yes, for attention, I really believe that too! Again, there is nothing more important!
Yes and thank god for dads like you and Jar.. you guys are rare I think.
My H does love our kids, and I think its hard for him to leave a work so much, but he tries not to get caught up in that because someone has to pay the bills and we just get that Its better if im home with them, then with a sitter.
I don't like to bug him about how much he works, because frankly he has to. so that wouldn't be fair. He is very loving and affectionate towards them, and say ILY every day to them, thank the lord.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
My son is only 10 and I don't know if he knows what is going on but what does help me EVERYNIGHT is when I go to bed I tell hem Good night. his reply... Good Night I love you dad. Then we get into this I love you more than here to the moon and it goes on and on. As I pass the W before bed it's just "night"
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Do you think people that are like that didn't get enough love from their own parents?
It is so hard to imagine those who can let go of their kids so easily. I do know a couple of women where the H WAS VERY PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE TO THE w not THE KIDS AND THE w'S HAD TO ESCAPE BECAUSE THEY WERE IN REAL DANGER OF BEING KILLED BUT OTHER THAN THAT HOW CAN ONE ABANDON YOUR KIDS WHEN THEY NEED TOU? i DON'T GET IT EITHER.
sAFFIE
OPPS CAPS LOCK ON BY MISTAKE!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
If it wasn't for dads like the dads on here, we would have even more kids in trouble. TAL, I am like you, nothing would keep me from my girls. I wouldn't even think about sacrificing myself for their happiness and safety. I never even 'bother' God with my needs anymore, I get their prayers in there and leave it at that.
jar, keep surprising her with kindness. It must be so hard to watch her do the things she is doing, and watch the girls hurting, but you are doing what you should be, protecting them, and standing by your wife. Good job.
