Although my h didn't actually have an A with one certain person, he was looking. Not as bad, but bad enough. Anyways there are more women on here that can give you better advice but here is mine.
Time, time, time. That's what it took for me (still taking) The feelings when you first find out are raw. Time does heal is, or at least make it easier to cope.
My H and I are still struggling, some days are better than others, but Im still here trying. I have children just like you to think about. It keeps us going. She is hurt, angry, dissapointed and fustrated that she can't trust you I imagine and THAT only takes lots of time to get to that healing place.
You say that you love her, and im glad, then you are going to have to expect this attitude for awhile. She's going to pull back and she's going to hate you.. but things will calm down eventually and hopefully she won't throw in the towel.
Take care.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
