KML: you're an inspiration! How much kitty litter are you currently carrying? Hee hee.

Thanks for posting over at my place. I appreciate your encouragement.

Note to Sage: whoa, yeah, the privacy issue is a BIG one
between me and H right now -- though it really only cropped up since he began to have something to hide. Sore point.
I too discovered "what's going on" by reading his email -- at first totally by accident. I was shocked by what I read.
I feel a little scarred by it still.

It's good to remember "what goes around comes around" -- as Ellie's H showed by being worried for a minute that she has something to hide.

My H moved out (again) but is staying close to home,
and though I don't want to scare the living bejesus out of him (though it's tempting), I do think giving him a taste of his own medicine (not being always available, not letting him know my whereabouts) is making him see the consequences of his distancing COULD mean Bridget will fly away and be free, too.

In conversation now, if I mention a guy's name, my H gets alert and asks "who's that?" -- a real 180 for him. I try not to be coy, but not to give too full an explanation, like
"Oh, my friend at work, he's a technician."

After all, H left home so he could date. So WE are free to do so. (Will I date? Hmmm... I'm not sure).

Anyway, enough about me. Just wanted to swing by and see how the surf is at your beach.

Looking good!

Bridget