Valentine's Day Massacre - the Happy Ending

[sage]

Ellie -- I love the email story. I hear so many wonderful things in your M.! Aren't your old posts erased? If so, it's too bad because I would love to go back and read how far you guys have come (in detail).

E-mail accounts and privacy around them has always been a "big deal" in my R. with H. Early on in our M. I really pressured him (ugh) around his private email stuff -- I guess I'm just the kind of person who wouldn't think to keep it private from my H. while H. really felt strongly about having his own "stuff". Of course, I found proof of H's affair through his email account (went to log into mine and his popped up! Honest!) so that just added fuel to our fire....at one point in the early days after finding the A. I yelled at him my username and password and he was just totally unwilling to share his.

Anyway -- you may remember from some of my posts that I'm still really uncomfortable when H. gets on the computer to check his mail. I generally don't even feel as though I can be in the same room (trying to protect his privacy). The other day, he sent me a test email to my account and stood behind me while I logged in. My inbox was there for all to see and it made me stop and think...if he felt comfortable standing there gazing at my inbox how would he feel if I were standing behind him...

anyway, just musing. I love reading your posts (and your advice to others!)

Sage