Sara, I am proud of my D for what she did and the responsibility she showed. Makes me feel like I've done something right as a parent!
I like the analogy of my H's affair with the Seinfeld episode. He did actually say early after d-day that it "wasn't the right thing to do." I don't know what he thinks now, but it does seem like his fog is lifting. I would love to thank OW for doing everything you're not supposed to do in DBings -- pursuing, whining, being angry, etc!! She's contributing to her own downfall, which pleases me to no end.
I would love, love, love to do Retrouvaille! I've never heard of Imago but will look into it. We're not at that point now, but hopefully sometime next year. It sounds like you and your H have the R that I am dreaming of. The fairy tale with the happy ending where everyone lives happily ever after...
