ScottyMack, thank you for your kind words. I sure hope that your W is getting her act together. I must tell you that it sure did not come overnight for me. It was a very hard decision to make b/c I did not have any yearning for my H at all. It was more of what I knew I had to do morally right and hope that the "feelings" toward my H would follow. We are back to where we were before OM, etc. started up in my life, but we need to be better than that.
Sandi2,
I don't know much about your thread so forgive me if I am rehashing something you have already gone over but......
What made you make your desision? Did you just decide one day? Did you H give you an altamadum?
My W is goingthoght the same thing right now. But on top of it she has lost her job. So she is taking computer classes.
Here is the last letter she wrote me. We are still living in the same house but she sleeps in my son's room.
H,
I guess I can't just ignore the fact that you're trying so hard to reach out to me. Every time I see an email or letter or note, I cringe and wonder "what now". I am not in a good place right now. I have no confidence in myself as far as getting a good job. It scares the [censored] out of me. I need to feel independent, and without a job I feel totally dependent and I hate that. I am concerned about the finances because of the debt hanging over our heads. The job at XXXXXXXX was suppose to help take care of that, but again I got knocked down. First I got sick and lost $8000 in pay, then I got laid off yet again. I am concerned about our son because he seems to have become a loner during last school year. He thinks he's ugly and a loser.
It's not that I haven't thought about our marriage and wish that things could be how they were in the beginning. It would make things so much easier. But I do not have the energy or focus right now to help decide what our next steps should be. I know you need to feel loved and wanted, but I just can't give that to you in the way that you want. I care about you very much and want you to be happy, as I also want to be happy. But until I get a job and feel more secure and confident in myself, I just don't feel I can deal with any decisions about the future of our marriage.
C.
What do you think? I have a plan in place but I would like to hear your opinion.
Thanks Husband
I have a thread here called "where do I belong"
I have been over in infedeity for 6 months under varius threads
Agian thanks H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
