new here. Feel like dying

[ms ladybug]

I'm doing OK. I'm so confused right now.
Here's a summary of my week.
Monday night, dh moved out. Yes, I asked him to in the heat of an arguement. Stupid me.
Tuesday I was a wreck. I called in sick to work. Luckily, my boss is one of my closest friends and completely understanding. I made yet another mistake and called my husband that afternoon. I was crying. I told him I loved him, that I was sorry, all that whole pathetic crap. He told me he didn't care how I felt. It didn't matter to him. He doesn't have to put up with me anymore.
So, the last couple days, I've been doing 180/last chance. When I talk to him on the phone, which is daily mostly because we have a sick baby and are being referred to specialists for him, I keep the phone conversations very professional, and I always initiate ending the phone call.
So, last night, he calls and after I tell him all I needed to about the baby, I say, "OK, well, I'll talk to you later" in order to end the call. He says, "is that all?" I say, "yep."
Then he acts a little put off, and gets off the phone.
Again today, he calls regarding a clothing donation at his work for the fire victims in SD.
me: I put together the clothes to donate, and I'll leave them by the front door.
him: OK great. I'll come by to pick them up tomorrow.
(long pause of silence)
me:Ok, I'll talk to you later.
him: OK...you know for someone who said they cared so much, you sure keep our phone calls short.
me: What do you want?
him: Well, I'm not coming back home, but it would be nice to know that after 7 years of marriage, that you love me and care about me.

????!!!!!

me: J, I DO love you. You told me you didn't care about how I felt. So, what did it matter if I tried telling you.
him: I guess it doesn't matter.
me: if you ever want to talk, we can.
him: I tried talking to you for 7 years. Why does it take me moving out, for you to want to talk to me?
me: I don't know.
him: Well, you better think about it.
me: I guess I took things for granted.
him: I need to go get ready for work. Good-bye.

Now, what do you make of that?! I'm trying to do 180/last chance, (not saying I love you, keeping conversations light, initiated ending the calls) but in doing so, he thinks I don't care about him. Yet, a couple days earlier, he said he didn't care how I felt.
And he prefaces all this with, "I'm not moving back home..."

AUGH!!

Do I keep doing the 180? I feel like if I do, he's going to think I don't care.
What does he want? Does he want to see that I'm hurting? Should I show him that I'm hurting? Does he want me to ask him back? And, if he did want that, why would he make it a point to tell him that he's not coming back??
Any insight would be SO appreciated!