There is such a thing as too much honesty. You know a lot, and it is bad enough. You don't need to know more. You need to move in the direction of forgiving each other for the ways that you hurt each other, and you both need to work on being trustworthy not to hurt the other again. What he did to you is bad. But don't overlook the things that you did to him. If you are blind to your own faults you will repeat them. And then he will repeat his.
Hi, it's me again. My wife and I are still not speaking. This quote above rings true with me. I made more mistakes than I can count, but I feel like my W takes the moral high ground that in her not cheating and that I did, her pain is more than mine.
CHEATING IS WRONG. I did it. I hate myself for it. But that does not mean that the pain I feel from her emotional abandonment is any less than her pain. I broke the vows, but I did nearly kill myself to honor them until my breaking, and I am again. I guess I feel sometimes W did not honor ours by never emotionally consummating our marriage. That was and is incredibly lonely. I want to be strong and believe in her. And I do. I love her with all my heart for who she is. I just dont want to be lonely.
