I told my wife where she goes & who she is with is none of my buisiness any more & she lit up & now is out till midnight evey other night...she is so f*ckin selfish doesnt she see what this is doing to everyone in the house?....she is "in love"& thrilled & im devistated & the children look to me & are scared to death...I know i have to pull it together for them...keep the focus on my life (them) and im going to be ok so they are going to be ok..........but I just cant do it very well
It's easier if you just do something, rather than tell her what you're going to do - I think we're wired to automatically expect a response when we tell them, so we either end up disappointed and don't actually do it, or they become defensive and it's a lot harder to even get going.
Originally Posted By: lkyguy
she is upstairs getting all kjnds of pretty in a $130 shirt he must have bought her cause she is going on a date..........she told me & the boys she is going to a far away mall window shopping with some girls & dont wait up....the kids are sceptical & I know better.........
I feel so hopeless
It's tough - I remember once when my W had been out with 'friends' and she was changing for bed and she was wearing underwear I had never seen her wear before. I didn't say anything about it, but it doesn't take a genius to figure that out...
I would say that you need to start withdrawing from her and not say or do anything related to her activities... It might get her interested in what you're doing.
So when is your night out with the guys? Or are you doing what I used to do and try to be the doting father and stay home with the kids all the time in the hope that she'll appreciate what you're doing for her?
