You sound like your settling into the LBS roll quit admirably.
Yes MK, you do come to the point where you consider yourself an ex. Once you do, then the emotional baggage you've been carrying around for ever starts to weigh a little less. It's not so bad to think in those terms even if you do hold out hope for restoring your marriage. You can actually do both.
And about WAS being happy etc.. There came a time when I started to wonder if maybe that OM loves my WAS more than I ever did. I know that's an abomination to even consider, but strangely enough I've been tossing that around in my head lately. This is especially true when I do hear from others that she seems genuinely happy. Regardless of my loss I would never want to be responsible for another human beings unhappiness. When I think in these terms, it seems to make the whole ideal of divorce easier for me to accept.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
