lwb, I'm guessing it does tick him off a little, because he wants what feels best for him at any given time. he does. its how he operates. its feels good to support us, because it helps alleviate his guilt. it feels good to lie to me, because he doesn't have to deal with any emotional breakdowns from me (yes, he has told me that, even when I hadn't had one in a long time). he told me last spring he didn't know where he wanted him and ow to head, but he did everything he could to keep her, said what needed to be said to keep her, until he could decide. he did the same thing to me. if it bugs him at all that I am withdrawing, well, he'll be over it shortly. she'll see him thru, I have no doubt. and I'm sure time will lessen it. plus, he will be the first to say he's the king at compartmentalizing. he's very good at just putting me in a box in his mind and not thinking of me. me being distant at all probably just reminds him there is, or was, a problem at all. he'll get over it. I doubt he's lost a second of sleep over it.
neph, your h is weak and pathetic, but he is also a man who I would avoid at all costs if I were you. I am NOT you, you know more about him than I do, but lets just say in black and white, simply knowing what I have read here about him, he just plain scares me. no more nips for either of us.
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