My best advice is to rebuild your friendship first. That's the foundation of the rest of your relationship - make it strong and solid before you try to pile more on top.
In the meantime, focus more on yourself - be a happy, strong, independent person. That way, no matter what happens in your M - you're good. Either you are still a happy, strong, independent person whose nutso wife couldn't see it - or you are a happy, strong, independent person in a marriage that is getting better.
It's hard to imagine it at this point, I know - but you need to approach this as creating a win/win situation for yourself. Does that make any sense?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
