Well I'm taking advance purchase orders for my upcoming book.."A User's Guide on How to Fck-up a Relationship." Miss IC called from work and asked if I was OK with her and the girls spending the night at a girlfriends...needed some time to think"
IC and Mrs. IC: you can get through ANYTHING-- absolutely ANYTHING-- if you
1) Stay open
2) Don't shut each other out (IOW don't "protect" each other from your feelings)
Lill, I DID NONE OF THESE! Marriage is supposed to be of sharing, sharing in love, sharing in the good along with the bad...as one, as a whole, as a team if you will. I've hurt her bad...a life changing event for both of us and I elected to keep it to myself. Shut her out, kept her on the outside until the last moment (chemo starts this week). I fck'd up !
Originally Posted By: RealJourney
This is so true. My tendency toward depression and my H's tendency toward escapism really threw us off course. There wasn't this sense that we're in it together.
I have high hopes for IC and Miss IC.
RJ, There isn't a sense right now that we're in this together. I've got this "I can defeat anything" kind of confidence going and I owe most of that to Miss IC. But yet when it comes to something like this...what do I do? I fck it up and put Miss IC on the outside looking in
