Josa, I see the same things in my sitch. Then a Christian friend told me that God gives us just enough light and hope to keep us going. He won't show us everything at once, because that would be too much for us. He gives us just enough to hang on for a little while longer, while He does his work on the spiritual side.
I see that happening in my sitch on a regular basis. If not for those little glimmers of hope, I probably would have quit by now, and moved on. Because God answers my prayers, I know what God wants me to do. And for that reason, I will be faitful to Him, and I will not quit.
Sorry to hog your thread Ellie.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Over on another thread your "it might just be itchy butt" on his mind -- and not longing for OW, like we assume -- had me in stitches. I'm still chuckling, and will add that thought to my bag of DB tricks...
And now you're climbing Mt Whitney with a bag of kitty litter! What a gal!
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha hah aha hahahh
Can't stop giggling.
Thanks for all your support in my sitch.
Talk more soon, I'm keeping you in mind and proud of you and inspired, too...
KML..just surfing around here and read your threads..great story..we need to hear some good endings and how to get there..what works and what might not. Thanks..enjoy life to it's fullest..something alot of us have forgotten to do. Sue
So happy to see you in piecing. And thanks so much for summarizing your whole tale. Kind of scary how it parallels mine, though!
I know you've been following my thread some, so you must have noted the same.
I'm so happy things are looking up for you. My Mom, brother and sister all fought the thyroid battle. My Mom and sis both ended up killing it off, and had some "fun" getting it regulated afterwards. Both are fine now. My bro, however, is sticking with the "natural approach" but suffers quite a lot.
I hope your H has sent that e-mail. As you know, it was my e=mail that ended the contact with OW this time. H didn't even want to have that much contact with her. I believe they've not been in touch since (what's it been, three weeks now? Not quite. ), and for some reason "this time" it feels true.
We've got caller ID and so far lots of "blocked number" hang ups and at least one from her province . But it's all there for me to see.
Your words and insights are so inspirational to all of us, just wanted you to know that.
Good morning Will, SB, Andre, everybody. Yes, I'm still here - it's just that darned relationship thing gets in the way of me posting on the weekends!
Saturday we had to divide and conquer, H was picking up S16 at a Japanese competition, while I was taking S11 to a band competition. Was talking to H on the cell phone and he told me "imagine what it would have been like to try to coordinate all this if we were separated" and then told me how glad he was that we weren't (separated).
Yesterday we went out together and bought some new furniture for our new back porch. Feels so good to be planning a future together.
Next weekend one of his sisters is coming into town on a business trip with her H. It will be interesting talking with her because I don't know what she knows about what has been happening here. H was talking to his brothers and his mom throughout but I think whatever she knows is through the grapevine, so I suspect her first words to me when I pick her up at the airport will be something on the order of "what the heck has been going on here?".
I like his sister and can see that the things we've learned here could really help her own marriage, but it's so hard to try to communicate this to others, isn't it? You want to save everybody from going through what you went through, but maybe the only way to get here is to go through it? I don't know.
Friday night I get to spend in hotel in LA with H again (business) - same place where those two guys tried to pick me up in the bar
All in all, life is good, PMA is excellent, today is day 5 of seven days hiking in a row for my training and it is going well. Keeping the focus on myself and the things I am doing for myself, as that is important to me and to my H.
Ellie, You sound great! Shave some of that PMA off and throw it my way! Great furniture trip, LA trip hotel sex and maybe a couple guys in the bar again? noooo, not necessary but never that bad huh? Stop by my thread when you get a chance- H is back in the country. I would love your Dr. Ellie opinion Shay
I think tonight I let the bb get in the way of time with H...oops! Oh well tomorrow is another day.
About sharing bb wisdom with outsiders...those who know about my sitch (too many know everything up to bomb #3) think I'm crazy, it's hard to convey the spirit of things here properly. Shiny
Hi all - Tiniest of backslides last night. Went out to dinner with my H for our "date night". Had nice dinner, somehow the subject came up and I asked H if there had been any other calls or emails from OW since he sent the email. He said no. Then he mentioned on the way home that it was possible she might move back into town at some point and that he might encounter her at work or (horrors) we might encounter her when we are out together, like surfing, and wanted to discuss how we would respond. I said "You mean scratching her eyes out is not an option? " He said no, something more like " how nice to meet you". I said "can't do that, how about how INTERESTING to meet you?" Anyway, convo went well and I reemphasized to him that I am not obsessing about her and that I know I am way more woman anyway. He emphasized that she is beneath me and I don't need to waste time thinking about her.
SO the backslide - go home, have great sex, start to fall asleep. I start thinking to myself, wondering where and when he went surfing with her here on our own turf (knew he went in Hawaii) when the phone rings and there's no one on the other line. H asks who it is and knows from my response that I'm still worried about these hang-up calls being from the OW. (In the light of day I know that's silly and very unlikely, but somehow when I'm half-asleep at night it seems to make perfect sense). We let it go and we go back to sleep - no biggie, just kind of blew my cover as Miss Self-confidence 2003. I guess that's one thing we're learning here in Piecing - "We have met the enemy, and he is us".
), and for some reason "this time" it feels true.
. But it's all there for me to see.
but never that bad huh? Stop by my thread when you get a chance- H is back in the country. I would love your Dr. Ellie opinion