From what I hear, she is still deeply attracted to the OM and can't get him out of her head.
From my experience, sometimes a spouse will actually let you have "sex" just to get the pressure off of them, but you can easily tell she don't want to be there....and that's no fun at all.
A think she's still talking to him, emailing, or however they communicate. The crying comes from the guilt they are experiencing. There's really nothing wrong with you...they are the one with the issues...trying to lead a double life wondering when it's all going to collapse.
